change IS good

Changes makes you flexible. Being stubborn and resistant to new things will make a normally stressing situation even more so. Change helps you be fluid and go with the flow.
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Change makes you smarter. If things never changed, you’d never learn anything new. And every time you learn a new skill — even if it’s just how to adapt — you are that much smarter than you were yesterday.
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Change reminds us that anything is possible. It’s easy to think that anything that’s stuck will always be that way. But when you see things change, whether it’s in your life or some one else’s, it’s encouragement to know that nothing stays the same forever.

love others

What ever you give to life, it gives you back.
Do not hate anybody.
The hatred which comes out from you will someday comeback to you.
Love others. And Love will comeback to you.

heart-in-a-box

It's a little bit horrifying just how quickly everything can fall to crap. Sometimes it takes a huge loss to remind you of who you care about the most. Sometimes you find yourself becoming stronger as a result; wiser, better equipped to deal with the next disaster that comes along. Sometimes, but not always.

~Greys Anatomy

being a parent

When we choose to be parents,
we accept another human being as part of ourselves,
and a large part of our emotional selves
will stay with that person as long as we live.
From that time on,
there will be another person on this earth whose orbit around us
will affect us as surely as the moon affects the tides,
and affect us in some ways more deeply than anyone else can.
Our children are extensions of ourselves.

~Fred Rogers

If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
-Diane Loomans

Perfect for Me

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can.

He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give.

Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”
― Bob Marley

it is well with my soul

Serenity is knowing whatever life throws me, all is well with my soul Y

How to apologise

An apology is an expression of remorse or guilt over having said or done something that is hurtful or damaging, and a request for forgiveness. However, it can be difficult to swallow our pride and say "I'm sorry." If you have a difficult time making amends for mistakes or repairing the effects of angry words, here's how to keep your dignity while being humble, and invite forgiveness with grace. If this person ever meant anything to you or had a major impact on your life, you should apologise

1.    Determine what went wrong

2.    Take full responsibility for the offense, without sharing the blame with anyone else, and without presenting mitigating circumstances

3.    Realise that there are no excuses.

4.    Decide when to apologise

5.    Write your apology down.

6.    Begin the apology by specifying your offenses and the feelings your actions may have caused.

7.    Make amends.

8.    Express your appreciation for the role that they play in your life, emphasising that you do not want to jeopardize or damage the relationship

9.    Ask if they will give you another chance to make up for what you did wrong.

10.  Be patient.

11.  Stick to your word.

12.  If the person you apologise to rejects and hates your apology, they don't deserve one.